If Only they Knew!

You are The Empress

Beauty, happiness, pleasure, success, luxury, dissipation.

The Empress is associated with Venus, the feminine planet, so it represents,
beauty, charm, pleasure, luxury, and delight. You may be good at home
decorating, art or anything to do with making things beautiful.

The Empress is a creator, be it creation of life, of romance, of art or business. While the Magician is the primal spark, the idea made real, and the High Priestess is the one who gives the idea a form, the Empress is the womb where it gestates and grows till it is ready to be born. This is why her symbol is Venus, goddess of beautiful things as well as love. Even so, the Empress is more Demeter, goddess of abundance, then sensual Venus. She is the giver of Earthly gifts, yet at the same time, she can, in anger withhold, as Demeter did when her daughter, Persephone, was kidnapped. In fury and grief, she kept the Earth barren till her child was returned to her.

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Egypt: The People vs The Country

Do people make the country? Or, does the country make the people?
I – a very proud Egyptian - have seen a lot of the country and enough of the people and here are my thoughts:

If the people do not have manners; the country is rude.
If the people spit in the street; the country is disgusting.
If the people do not shower; the country stinks.
If the people touch their privates in the street; the country is perverted.
If the people throw garbage in the street; the country is dirty.
If the people do not brush their teeth; the country is full of yellow/brown smiles.
If the people have a loud pitch; the country sounds like a hen den.
If the people are frustrated; the country is reputed for harassment.
If the people do not stop at red lights; the country is always congested.
If the people do not drive safely; the country has a high accident rate.
If the people do not fix their cars; the country is hazed out with pollution.
If the people do not put road-signs; the country is a maze.
If the people do not know how to drive; the country has the worst roads.
If the people abhor rules; the country is in chaos.
If the people do not respect schooling; the country is illiterate.
If the people do not like to read; the country is ignorant.
If the people insist on talking bad English; the country stutters.
If the people do not keep their promise; the country is never taken seriously.
If the people lie; the country is known for liars.
If the people cheat; the country is known for fraud.
If the people are dishonest; the country has no answers.
If the people are not tolerant; the country is intolerable.
If the people do not practice what they preach; the country is double-faced.
If the people envy one another; the country is sick with jaundice.
If the people step on one another’s toes; the country is full of swollen toes.
If the people stab each other in the back; the country is sore with deadly wounds.
If the people are lazy; the country is stagnant.
If the people are artificial; the country is a disgrace.
If the people are stoned; the country is numb.
If the people are confused; the country loses direction.
If the people do not know the truth; the country is misled.
If the people are poor; the country is naked.
If the people have no dreams; the country is dead.
If the people do not have a present; the country will not have a future.
If the people do not think of the future; the country will live in the past.
If the people do not change themselves; the country will not change them.
If I could get rid of such people; I might save the country.
I just hate the people; but I am in love with the country.

Until Death do us Part - Contemplating Divorce

What fed their dreams to the shredder?
What turned their vows into curses?
To love but not to hold?
For the better but not for the worst?
For the richer because no one wants the poorer?
In health but never in sickness?
What would make a young bride runaway from the love nest?
What would make prince charming flee on his not-so-white horse?
Was it a bad choice?
Was it that marriage put an end to the dating farce?
Is it the lies?
Is it the false pretences?
Could it be expectations?
Could their premature divorce be the only natural outcome of the marriage of a couple who were incubated in a schizophrenic society?
Am I being too pessimistic?
Am I being too realistic?

The men and women who shared with me their sob stories are victims of our society. The double standards that they are brought up to adopt create what we call in business, an execution gap.

There is a big void between where we really are and where we want to be; what we want and what we have; how we feel and how we act. We drown in an abyss of deluding illusions, unrealistic expectations, fake emotions, consuming demands, and the inevitable frustration.

We get married for the wrong reasons; we mistake lust for love and confuse stability with stagnation.

Mothers are over protective as though they want to suck us back into their wombs.

Fathers discriminate between their sons and daughters.

Women do not practice what they preach; they sing to the deaf ears of their male counterparts.

Men do not meet the promises they make; they play to the sensitive tunes of the female vulnerability.

Traditions, manners, taboos, and religion mix in one melting pot that defines stereotyped outlines for our ideal character and our perfect mate.

We are dictated the answers to all the quizzes but we are left to face the final tests alone – we fail with flying colors.

100 “GOOD GIRL” TIPS

Chapter 1 – The dull doll look

1) Have a wardrobe of cute girly, or tom-boyish, outfits for family visits – they will never notice you growing up.
2) Have a stash of sexy tops to go with your hidden ultra low rise jeans for hanging out purposes – great disguise.
3) Curly hair is a sign of wildness; straighten it to give you an innocent look or cover it for the ultimate trustworthy look.
4) If you add a few blond streaks, always make it sound like the stupid hairdresser’s mistake.
5) Use lip gloss and pout.
6) Use volumizing mascara and flutter your lashes.
7) Try natural color blush to give you the needed flush.
8) Invest in a great concealer to hide your pores, your age, and your imperfections.
9) Gaze into an imaginary line behind whoever you are talking to for a super dull look.
10) If you are tempted to straighten your back and show off you femininity, remember that you are a heap of bones wrapped up in fat and covered with flawed skin.

Chapter 2 – Watch your manners

11) Speak in a low decent tone regardless of how low and indecent your words are.
12) Laughing out loud in public is not becoming of a “good girl”.
13) Keep your legs closed and close to one another in public.
14) If you do otherwise, with your legs, in private, always say it is the first time.
15) Smile at all times – it makes you look authentic.
16) Avoiding eye-contact does not make you a liar, it just makes you shy.
17) Learn from Halle Berry; the look but don’t touch attitude flies well.
18) A “good girl” never ever smokes – in the bathroom is fine.
19) Shishas & lollipops are out of the question – “good guys” are quite imaginative.
20) Table manners dictate that you should eat in silence and smile when necessary.

Chapter 3 – the epitome of innocence

21) Avoid talking to guys – if possible.
22) Talk to them while standing up – to give the impression that it is a casual chat.
23) Sit with a guy in groups only – you are a “good girl”, remember that.
24) Never get involved with a guy.
25) Hide it if you do.
26) Lie about it if you are asked.
27) Deny it forever when it is over.
28) Never hold hands in public.
29) Do anything you want in private.
30) No matter what, you are always a virgin and you do not know how babies are made.

Chapter 4 – The Sisters

31) Always be seen in the company of other “good girls”.
32) Never tell a “good girl” a secret; she will blackmail you.
33) Never introduce a “good girl” to a potential guy; she will innocently hit on him.
34) Never cry in front of a “good girl”; she will bring it up again to hurt you.
35) Never talk to a “good girl” who is turning into a “bad girl”.
36) Be a diplomat; anything you say will be used against you.
37) Be a nun; forgive, forget, and never tell.
38) Be an idiot; nerds never threatened anyone.
39) If you have an urge to talk about sex, it is never you; it is always about “one of those girls”.
40) Never call another “good girl” a bad name in her face – you can say anything you want behind her back.

Chapter 5 – Your Opinions

41) Have no opinions what so ever.
42) If you have an opinion, keep it to yourself.
43) If you happen to have brains, hide them – brains scare “good guys”.
44) Go with the flow; if they hate miniskirts, then you’ve never seen one.
45) Thinking is bad for your health.
46) If you really surly truly have to disagree, agree first.
47) No matter what, avoid having any opinions on sex, religion, politics, independence, women, men, life, and death.
48) “I aim to please” – repeat it and act upon it.
49) You’ve always wanted to get married to a guy like your dad.
50) You’ve always wanted to be like your mother when you grew up.

Chapter 6 – Your character

51) Have no character; be as colorless as possible.
52) “Good girls” are modest; stifle your self-esteem.
53) Be soft and mild to attract a “good guy”
54) You are obedient to the bone.
55) Have no aspirations; you were born to be a mother and a wife.
56) If you have aspirations; they are family obligations not your choice.
57) Public displays and private affairs should be kept miles apart.
58) You have a selective version of Alzheimer’s – use it when cornered.
59) Being illusive will make you more desirable.
60) Being a double-faced hypocrite will make you more mysterious.

Chapter 7 – Your career

61) The sole purpose of working is to meet Mr. Right.
62) Avoid careers; “good guys” do not appreciate them.
63) Get a job that gives you minimum exposure and zero fulfillment.
64) A promotion is not an achievement; finding a man is.
65) A trip abroad is never good news.
66) Be a friend to all.
67) “Good girls” do not talk to their male colleagues.
68) If you have to talk to them, make it strictly professional.
69) Your male boss and colleagues are werewolves in disguise.
70) Your female boss and colleagues are always jealous – poor you!

Chapter 8 – Your weapons

71) Tears will get you out of absolutely anything.
72) Apologies will erase any opinion you might have accidentally voiced.
73) Blindfolds; put them on and rest in peace.
74) Mouth gags are a great tool to keep your mouth shut when hurt and if insulted.
75) Your back; turn it to anyone who needs help and you will never get in trouble.
76) Put on a sad face and you will always be the adorable center of attention.
77) Put on the lost princess look and a savior is bound to show up.
78) White lies were created to make you prettier.
79) Black lies were created to make your man happier.
80) A veil will give you immunity – put it on and do as you please.

Chapter 9 – Absolute NOs

81) Drinking is totally unacceptable – it is always your first sip.
82) Girls with a tattoo are bad – have yours in a hidden place.
83) Girls with a belly piercing are loose – hide yours but talk about it.
84) You always have a curfew – it is always the first time you’ve missed it.
85) Dancing is for “bad girls”, “good girls” stare and curl their lips.
86) “Good girls” never go to bars or pubs – it is always your first time.
87) Love? Every man you meet is your first, and last, love!
88) Sex? What sex?
89) Internet dating; a “good girl” always rises above such obscenities.
90) Strength, brains, independence, career, and a life are male-repellents.



Chapter 10 – The “good guy” you deserve

91) As long as he comes home in the end, he can do as he pleases.
92) As long as he feeds you, keep your mouth shut.
93) He can force you to stay home – you never had a career anyway.
94) He can boss you around – you never had an opinion, so why complain now?
95) He can be as disrespectful as he wants, and you can cry as much as you want.
96) He can beat you up for every white lie he discovered.
97) He is fully entitled to isolate you from the female friends you never had.
98) A “good guy” is jealous; you will never get to wear your stashed wardrobe.
99) He will never tarnish your innocence and take you dancing; he will have a girlfriend to escort him.
100) If you give birth to a baby girl, he will make sure she is brought up as a “good girl”!

Good Girl in Marketing Terms

Your vision:
To be perceived as a good girl at all times.

Your mission:
To bend over backwards to please others.

Your positioning statement:
The Ultimate Denying Experience (apologies to BMW)

Your target audience:
Vain ladies and gentlemen.

Your objectives:
Trial and, hopefully, purchase.

Your Marketing Mix:

• Product: You
• Price: Your Life
• Place: "Good girl" outlets though "good girl" distribution channels
• Promotion:

1) Advertising - Personal ads & word of mouth
2) Public Relations - Favorable speeches & crisis management strategies
3) Sales Promotion - Limited edition (until putting on a ring on the naked left finger)
4) Direct Marketing - Cute emails & regular SMSes to all eligible bachelors and mothers of potential bachelors
5) Personal Selling - Promote your cooking, sewing, budgeting, and loving competive advantages in all outings

Alf alf mabrouk (Congrats!)

Out of the Cocoon

• In their attempt to protect their kids, our mothers crippled them.
• I see the pattern of the ready-made-easy-to-cook attitude everywhere.
• Like my butterfly, they face the world with shriveled wings, limp bodies, porous bones, and hollow heads.
• They are neither equipped to deal with the heavy blows of fate nor the daily challenges of life.
• They have no sense of direction and a vague reason for existence.
• Following the “use it or lose it” rule of thumb, if they are not used, muscles turn to flab, brains turn to mush, and determination turns to lethargy.
• I loved my pet so much that I wanted to ease her way out of the cocoon but instead, I maimed her for life.
• According to Darwin, I turned what could have been powerful wings into a vestigial structure – like our degenerate tail bone and wisdom teeth.
• Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our life; if nature allowed us to go through life without any obstacles, it would cripple us.
  
• When it comes to kids, I believe that you have them as you make them; you sow what you reap. If I sow the seeds of inexperience, I will reap the fruits of disappointment.

Toy Boy Nightmare

* I used to wonder what could be attractive in a guy who was 7 or 10 years younger; what could he say to someone who was carrying her schoolbag when he was sucking on his thumb?

My heart went out to those ladies who had to bear the inquisitive eyes that followed them and their toy boy. I was so certain that I will never walk the famous mile in their shoes … I was wrong!

* My toy-boy-alarm was in the making; just the thought of me settling for this type of public humiliation gave me immediate palpitations.

* I am a single independent career-oriented girl who is starved for love and attention.

* I miss being in a relationship and I miss the little things that add flavor to my spreadsheet of a life; the surprises, the love words, the excitement before a date, the dreamy reminiscence after a date, and the phone calls that are directly wired to my heart.

* There are plenty of men around me but they have either given up on life or given in to life.

* I do not like their baggage; be it an ex wife, a current wife, kids, imbedded resentment for women, commitment phobia, independence-induced selfishness, stinginess, hair loss, muscle loss, or a spare tire around their waist.

* The few who are eligible candidates do not want an equal and cannot accept a superior; they want a young girl whom they could control, boss around, and manipulate in the name of love!

* I am developing a scary form of cannibalism; young hearts, fresh skin, and green minds attract me.

* I felt that I lived in a glass house and I was under the illusion that people were throwing stones at me.

* Sad news: just as much as I can see through lonely over-eager older guys, younger guys can easily sense my cannibalism.

* I do not like the way I see my future – I see a 45 year old hag hunting young mouthwatering kids and devouring their hopes, aspirations, and futures.

Quotes: Tic ... Toc

When I was a little girl of 6, I wanted my man to be strong to carry my schoolbag.

At the age of 10, I wanted him to have a license and a car to drive me to places I wanted to go.

At the age of 14, I wanted him to be clean to look good in my house and handsome so I can have pretty children.

At the age of 18, I wanted him to sleep in a separate bedroom and to love me.

At the age of 21, I wanted him to be exclusively mine and to understand me.

At the age of 25, I wanted him to change diapers and do his own laundry.

At the age of 28, I wanted him to have a career and not to be the usual male drag species.

At the age of 30, I wanted him to be a clone of Hannibal Lecter.

At the age of 32, I am still single and fighting for everything I wanted since I was 6.

At any age, it’s all or nothing .. my clock ticks but does not tock!

Quotes: Love Lost ... Love Regained

* The turtle in me will never stick its little head and legs out of the shell unless she is warm and secure.

* I have nothing more to ask Santa; he finally found my perfect gift. I am flying somewhere between cloud nine and heaven.

* I do not want to waste a waking moment without being with you. Waking up in the morning feels great, going to bed at night feels warm, and life altogether feels different.

* My imagination fed my heart with visions, my heart fed my mind with thoughts, and my mind sent shudders to my body – yes, I loved you before I even met you.

* When you look at me, you see through me; I want to hide from your eyes into your arms.

* I know in my heart that we have the same vision for the future; that we will have the best kids and that you can always depend on my strength and support.

* I want to love unconditionally and to give unlimitedly. I want to put any resources, skills, or talents I have at your disposal.

* I love you because you are open minded enough to go to places in my head that would scare most people away.

* I love you because you understand comfortable silence.

* I love you because you appreciate the truth no matter how harsh it might be.

* I love you because you have the strength to express what others consider weakness.

* You are intellectual yet sensitive; sensitive yet strong; strong yet tender; tender yet protective; protective but not possessive.

Quotes: Dating & Mr. Big

* Clap Clap, girls and boys are playing musical chairs; an easy game on the dating scene. Just jump on an empty chair. Just get an available guy. Just get an available girl.

* As you let go of her, make sure you grab another girl. As you jump boats, make sure you left nothing behind; ditch your partners; switch your partners - just keep going in circles around the musical chairs.

* Dating is a handful of cards; you throw a card and someone picks it up, you pick up a new card that was thrown away by another player in the game.

* Some people are like magnets; but they only attract rusty nails.

* “Mr. Big” walks in a room with his head stuck up; his big smile covers layers of confidence alternating with other layers of high self-esteem. He is known for daring eye contact and can mesmerize you with a naughty gaze before you even mention your name to him. His words, jokes and stories will make your hand-watch obsolete.

* “Mr. Big” will smash your big toe under his big foot and your big love will be expelled in seconds out of his big heart. He will wear his big black suit, put on his big black sunglasses, get in his big black car and will leave you to suffer alone in a big black hole after he has made his big black exit.

Quotes: Egyptian Men & Avian Flu

* Some men are under the illusion that they are peacocks! While they develop a crest and arch their backs, they greet the world with a dislocated chest, protruded behind, and a strut.

* The infected male stretches his arms, flexes his muscles, strutts back and forth, and flutters his ugly plumage to display his train of feathers.

Read the Peacock Syndrome on Jenny's Blog

Quotes: For the love of Hannibal Lecter

* Let me introduce you to the Dr. Lecter that I envy Agent Starling for; deep, intense, witty, handsome, and knows her like the back of his hand.

* Hannibal knows how her mind works and what makes her heart tick; he knows her every thought, fear, wish, and impulse.

* Dr. Lecter loved Clarice for her vulnerable strength. The beast had many chances to devour her, yet he declined.

* Hannibal Lecter dared her, challenged her, and pushed her from one limit to the other, but he was always there to save her soul when she gave in to despair.

* When the bad guys, society, enemies, or anyone hurt his beloved, Lecter was still watching over her shoulder; he hurt them for her.

* When it was his life or hers, he chose hers; when it was his wrist or hers, he saved hers; when it was his heart or hers, he broke his to mend hers. The beast went against his nature for her … this is my definition of effort!

Quotes: On Life & Death

* We are all going to die – there is no surprise here – but how we lived our lives is what will determine how we will feel about death.

* The thought of dying does not bother me but the thought of dying as though I never lived drives me crazy.

* I want to leave a legacy; to make a difference; to have some sort of an impact.

* Whether I lived a day, a decade, or a century I will know that I affected so many lives, touched many hearts, and shaped many minds.

* I know that with my little words I am making a big difference and my existence matters, will matter, and will have once mattered.

* Girls and boys meet up and break up everyday and none of them knows whose ring they will wear, how many rings they will wear, whose babies they will have, who they will grow old with, and in whose arms they will die.

* Whatever I have or whoever I am with, I will enjoy it as long as it lasts and come what may.

Quotes: Grown-up lies & truths

* Walt Disney promised that the prince and the princess will live happily ever after; he overlooked the breakups, make-ups, struggles, boredom, and challenges that rock, or wreck, many boats.

* Hallmark is next on my hit list; because of their cute cards, creative gifts, and heart warming poetry, we have to celebrate Valentine’s Day and unlucky tomboys, like my humble self, never get to send or receive any of their product lines.

* To be or not to be! - Hamlet!! How limiting could that question be? When did our retinas stop seeing the colors of a rainbow? Why do we print our experiences in duotone? In a game of multiple choice questions, how many answers could be correct? What number of choices do we have? Who gives us the options? When do we have to submit our selections? Who decides if we passed or failed?

* Darwin observed that females are rather picky about their partners. Students used to wonder how it would ever pay to reject a “suitor” but I never failed to see the basic rationale: random mating is stupid mating!

Quotes: Men are like shoes

* Designer clothes will fit anyone who has the money, expensive watches will never fall off the thick wrist of a social climber, but only an expert eye can tell the difference between signature shoes and fake ones.

* It is normal for women to pick up the wrong type of shoes every now and then. Smart women give a wrong pair away while the rest of us hold on to even the ugliest flip-flops out of the fear of walking barefoot.

* If the mold is a misfit, the design is ugly, and there is no quality in the finishing, a wrong pair of shoes will be nothing but a pain in the toes!

* The wrong pair of shoes are uncomfortable from the start and, though highly maintained, they lose their allure quickly.

* There were times when I felt that I have invested a fortune of emotions into a fake, yet well polished pair of mismatched sneakers.

* The design of this ungodly footwear always will set you off balance; you will trip on every stone and will land on your face, on your knees, or on your back many a time. Such shoes should come with a warning: “For short walks only”.

* You will brilliantly exhaust your feet taking long painful strides on a treadmill that will get you nowhere; all the effort you put in the relationship will be recorded on the calorie scale but it will never show on the distance counter.

Quotes: I am a bad girl

* Men look much better from a distance; the closer they are the worse they become.
When a man is a total stranger, he is a total knockout; when he is just a friend, he is just a man; when he becomes your boyfriend, he becomes your nightmare; when he becomes a husband, he becomes a flop.

* Don’t fret over a guy you did not get to know because, most of the time, once you get to know them, they are not worth the time of the day.

* Men love dangling carrots; they only function by motivation and a challenge, and once you give them access, the game is over. For them, women are just dangling carrots.

* Due to the high demand on men and the over supply in women, men feel comfortable slipping in the back seat and napping while the women do the driving, the maneuvering and the hunting.

* Should I be a “good” girl and tell you what my mother tells me all the time? “This is life, this is how things are, this is how things always were, this is how things always will be, this is how men are, and this is how women should be – weak, mellow, forgiving, accepting, approving, needy, and stupid.” Or, should I be a “bad” girl and raise the flags of disobedience, beat the drums of war, and throw another dart at another man? – Bad girls are more popular!

* There is nothing wrong with love and there is nothing wrong with men. The mess happens when the woman approves of the wrong done by her man, and when the man does not spare any effort to wrong his woman.

* There was an unheard of village on a forsaken continent where the inhabitants did not believe in bathrooms; they used to “do it” in any corner in the street, then they complained all the time about the stink in the air – this reminds me of men when they complain about the bitchy women they created.

* Like any other human being, a wife is not perfect. Instead of focusing on her inner and outer beauty, a man focuses on the empty half of her cup – hence the affair.

Quotes: My Quest

* People say that I am too picky, demanding, and uncompromising but I am just a girl who wants to take exactly what she is willing to give; I just want to love and to be loved – but I will never love a man unless he has a consensus from my mind, body and heart.

* What is difficult about asking for a man who will make me feel like the most beautiful woman on earth even when I feel like a shaggy doll?

* What is uncompromising about asking for a man who is my equal? Who appreciates my independence, cherishes my strength, and respects my weakness?

* What is picky about asking for a man who is not some needy freak or disgusting creep?

* I have been with guys who made me feel like a queen on a collapsing thrown and with others who made me feel – just invisible.

* I ran out of glue mending broken pieces and I have no more tolerance for any more make-ups and break-ups.

* How many frogs do I have to kiss before I find my handsome prince?

* In a word association game, evanescence would be associated with marriage vows that evaporate faster than mercury; with love that flees the merciless scars of infidelity; with a melting sense of commitment; with a fading respect for family.

* I have seen “Pay It Forward” at least five times; I know exactly how it ends. It is prewritten but still I hope that some divine intervention will change the ending.

* I have a very sad story but the saddest part is not what he did to me, it is what I did to myself.

* When he was Mr. Nice, I gave him access, but when Mr. Nice became Mr. Lethargy, I shut him out – and the story goes on.

* I do not miss the real him, I miss the illusion I had of him - and the illusion of a guy never comes back.

* I have a tendency to try to “fix” any man I get into a relationship with. I spot the defects and I know how to fix them, so without any hesitation, I bring in my “Miss Fix-Him” kit and I start working. At best we end up being friends, but usually it just ends! There is no way to save my men from my nails and hammers.

* I was developing an intense crush on him; he was developing an allergy towards me – a recurrent pattern.

* Until death do us part is just an anagram of “another stupid adult”. Seriously ... reshuffle the letters and you get ANOTHER STUPID ADULT.

Quotes: Mars & Venus Collide

* Tarzan starts with so much interest and persistence, then he contracts a sudden relationship atrophy syndrome and turns his coldest shoulder to the same Jane he once pursued with so much adamancy.

* Every Tarzan was born a hunter. He hunts for shelter, food, and love. Tarzan would never live in a ready made house, eat a prey that dropped dead at his feet, or get serious with a Jane who is a genie at his command.

* “He is not mine yet” read it, write it, and use it every time you feel jealous, possessive, or inquisitive. He is still a free man, and so are you. He owes you nothing, and neither do you.

* Tarzans abuse Dr. Gray’s “cave” theory; they use it as an excuse every time they want to end an existing relation, start a new relation, or have overlapping relations.

* “What is he doing in his cave?” Jane did not dare think, did not want to ask, and was not prepared to know.

* Don’t nag or plague, hunt or haunt, or stalk or chase your new Tarzan. Give him space to miss you, time to show it, and a chance to express it.

* Men hate leeches and any type of insect with hanging on characteristics. They also dislike whining.

* Women are not limp creepy social parasites who need to climb up a strong male trunk and suck the living sap out of him to survive.

* Women will not wither and die if they are separated from their socially acceptable host – a husband!

* For some reason, women tend to think that Tarzans are naïve – FICTION! Men have a lie detector built in their software. Lie a white lie and he will question your breathing. Lie a colored lie and you lost his trust forever.

* Never dump a current Tarzan for a new Tarzan thinking that the newcomer will be flattered. Men share a golden rule that says that if a woman dumps a man for him, she is most likely to dump him for another man. You are just giving him a valid reason to take you for a ride … a quick one!

* Over enthusiasm is big blunder girls! Curb your enthusiasm. Lock up the thrill in your voice, the spark in your eyes, the pounding of your heart, and the wide smile that brightens your face when you meet or talk to your Tarzan. Let him work for it.

* Generation after generation men became immune to our natural charms and became allergic to pretence. Ladies, you need to strike a balance between coming across as arrogant, fake, and conceited on the one hand, and being meek, genuine, and clumsy on the other.

* Avoid the classic mistake of being a “thing” in his car, a “thing” in his house, or a “thing” in his life – just do not let him take you for granted!

* Madonna’s Materialistic Girl is out of fashion. Tarzans do not like Janes who love their car, villa, and bank accounts. They abhor being treated as packages of assorted goodies.

* If you fail to like a man for who he is, not for what he stands for, then walk away while you still can. Tarzan will spare no effort to humiliate you as a punishment for such a grave offence against his mighty self.

* All men sense our vulnerability but only jerks take advantage of it.

* When it comes to friendship between a man and a woman, there are three categories; those who could not have you so they settled for your friendship, those you could not have so you settled for their friendship, and those who are on the same mental wavelength with you with no hidden agendas from either side.

* No one is perfect; he is not perfect; I am not perfect; Mr. Perfect does not exist.

* No one changes; he will not change; I will not change; Mr. Obedient is a myth.

* If I try to fix him I will break him; if he resists I will insist; if I insist he will resist.

* I do not mind being who I am now; I just do not want to remember how I got there – Expeience comes with a high price tag.

* Some relationships crash before they take off because the man in question does not exert any effort to get my initial attention, while the ones that crashed before they landed safely, ended because the man in question stopped exerting effort and took me for granted.

* It is always hard to choose between two dishes, or two men, when one gives me heartburn and the other makes my brain go numb.

* Countless men came my way; I have seen those who stink in the mind, those who stink in the heart, and those who stink in the flesh! They all just stink!

* The different man is a myth; there might be a Santa but there is no different man.

* Men come with different names, faces, and hunting styles; but their hollow words, void promises, and bitter aftertaste are the same.

Quotes: To All Egyptian Women

* It ails me to see that women are still trapped in the narrow tunnels of low self esteem and shackled to the ground by lead balls of fear.

* With their black blindfolds on, women face the brick walls of self-inflicted imprisonment and turn their backs to all the opportunities in the world.

* Man convinced women that their land is no longer a safe place to live on and that if they ventured outside his territories or disobeyed him all the mythical creatures will devour them - and they believed him.

* In the traumatized minds of women, men carved SIN; “S” stands for Stupidity, “I” stands for Ignorance, and “N” stands for Nothingness.

* You are in an abusive relationship when you are not allowed to argue with him in private and are forbidden to voice a contradicting opinion, or any opinion, in public!

* You are abused when you are robbed of your right to choose and denied your right to be fulfilled.

* You are abused when your partner turns you into a 24/7 slave in the dungeons of cruel merciless master.

* You are abused when you are starved for love and attention, humiliated in private and public, emotionally blackmailed, brainwashed, forced into sex, cheated upon, restricted, isolated, intimidated, neglected, and, at times, beaten up!

* Men created a big myth ages ago and women believed it; they claimed that their physical needs are much higher than those of a woman and used that as an excuse to justify their shameful behavior.

* Women who forgive affairs locked their pride in sealed bottles and threw them in oblivion; they willingly subject themselves to the double edge of treason and rejection; they would prefer sleeping with the enemy than sleeping alone.

* If girls compare their expectations of a man when they were sixteen and what they are willing to accept from a man now, they will see how far they are willing to compromise.

* Is it growing up or growing desperate that drove us so far down the ladder of expectations?

* An assembled package of your average guy replaced the tailor-made prince-charming; a married man will do if he has the money, a younger guy will do if he has the looks, any man will do if he can make it to the alter!

* Infidelity hits the woman’s pride; takes its toll on her self-esteem; makes her feel rejected, unwanted, and unfit. If only men knew how much damage they were causing and how deep a scar they were leaving.

* Our dreams are always blurred by the influence of a higher authority that dictates the code of conduct we should abide by to gain acceptance.

* When there is doubt, there is no doubt and if it is not a “yes” then it is a “no”.

* The fear of loneliness rushes us in, keeps us into, and traps us within, relations with the wrong guys.

* If you want men to stop abusing you, then you have to stop abusing yourself.

* The sea is full of fish so why should anyone lower the benchmark.

Quotes: New Beginnings

* New beginnings are always loaded with many contradictory feelings; hope, fear, optimism, doubt, resolution, skepticism, comfort, hesitation, and determination.

* The skeletons in the closet and collective experiences are a threat to new beginnings.

* We remember when we were last burnt or when we were last hurt, and we subconsciously look at our scars and resist the change.

* Memories of how deep and how painful the scars were rush back to our heads and, with an involuntary movement, we clench our fists as though we are holding on to the past - Something inside of us refuses to let go.

* At home we were directed to focus on our downsides, at school we had to improve our bad grades, and in the workplace we are asked to “develop” our weaknesses. Those who moved on did the exact opposite.

* It is amazing how much power we have yet we are so oblivious to its existence. Invest in what makes you feel strong instead of wasting time on things that only make you feel weak and bad about yourself.

* We do not believe in flying; we feel more secure with our feet on the ground, even if it is just quicksand.

* Fear always intercepts our attempts to change; fear of the devil we don’t know; fear of the other side of the fence; fear of the maze.

* We hold on to stability, to our comfort zone, like a mother to her child on a collapsing bridge, and we avoid venturing outside for fear of getting hurt or getting lost.

* Nothing justifies waking up in the morning hating what you wake up to, who you wake up with, or where you get up to go.

* Nothing explains leading an unfulfilled life with an unfulfilling job and an unfulfilling partner.

* We are meant to choose. We are created to investigate options and alternatives. We are not equipped to compromise for the long term.

* There are times when we consciously limit our options because we do not want to feel overwhelmed by the infinity of choices out there. It is difficult to choose; the bigger the selection, the more helpless we feel.

* How do we know we are making the right decision? How can we tell that we are not going to regret this? Other than using our limited common sense and intangible gut feeling, we will never know!

* Find micro-options and loopholes of choices in the tightest of situations and the trickiest of questions.

* Shift your motivation from the fear of loosing to the excitement about winning.

Quotes: Letting Go

* I broke my fingers, twisted my wrists, and hurt my arms trying to hold on to people who “had to” or “needed to” go away.

* I do not have the supernatural power of breathing life in dead relationships or people.

* I have been there and done that before – it is just another crash and it will pass.

* I am trying to turn my back to the horrible feeling of being used; of being taken advantage of; of being taken for a quick ride; of being someone’s pain killer.

* I want to close my eyes and not think of the intensity of the pain. I want to wake up in the morning and remember nothing of that person – or what could have been us.

* I packed the memories along with my feelings in one dark black bag, I put the bag in the box, and I threw it in that forgotten corner in my heart.

* The more I held on, the more desperate I looked, and there is nothing sexy or appealing about a desperate person.

* Most stars shine from a distance but if you reach out and hold them in your hand, they are, at best, nothing but dull rocks, and, at worst, nothing but a piece of fire that can burn a hole into your palm, carve a grave into your heart, or turn your life into a living hell.

* Forever is such an illusive word and I do not think that it has befriended anyone or anything; nothing lasts forever and no one lives forever; nothing is for sure and no one is certain of anything.

* You hurt me, cheated on me, abused me, ignored me, insulted me, neglected my needs, crushed my ego, underestimated my brains, neither saw my suffering nor heard my agony, placed your bets on my heart, damaged my soul, bruised my life, and finally you dumped me for no reason. I forgive you!

* I felt my old love leaves falling off, winds of memories blew through the holes in my heart, and with every step I took, the distance between us grew bigger. I am breathing again.
Bit by bit the pain loosened its firm grip on me; the crab that squeezed my heart with its clutches let go of what was left of it.

* I do not think of you 120 times a day; I no longer think of you everyday; you do not sabbotage my dreams. I am over you.

* Memories faded away; the vivid colors, sounds and scents seemed to have happened a long time ago. I am healing.

* The sense of isolation decreased; loneliness became a friend. I am enjoying my own company again.

* The ground feels closer to my feet than to my head. I am interested in my life and my friends again. I am regaining my balance.

Quotes: Heartache

* I have reached a point where I got so familiar with the colors of sadness and madness; they come wrapped in a big brownish ball - the color of human waste.

* I am sick of the color, the smell, the taste, and the feeling of deep shit!

* My heart is sinking, my soul is sulking, and a vicious crab is playing xo on my guts with its cutting edges.

* I turned from the inspiration to the burden; from the muse to the block; from the comfort to the pressure; from the real thing to the distraction; from the relationship to the rebound.

* There is a huge void in the center of my body; I have no passion, no thoughts, no drive, and no life. I am a drained air-vacuumed sac of human bones!

* I knew this feeling; the feeling deep down that the person at the other end is slipping away. I knew it is over and I knew that the more I held on, the more I would get hurt!

* Getting over someone is hard; ending a relationship is hard; overcoming a crush is hard; letting go is hard; I wished it would just hurt a bit then go away.

* I am now vomiting the toxic residues of a relationship that went sour; the leftovers of a person who poisoned my life!

* I've been hit by a bus; I do not want to get out of bed. I am sitting there hurting from inside. I am unable to reach into myself - where it hurts - to try to make it better .

* There are tears to go with the pain. Sometimes I just go numb then I am struck by a sudden pang of pain. I feel overwhelmed by anger at life.

* I tried resisting but the more I resisted the more difficult it got. It was like pushing a rewind button that would start the cycle all over again.

* Memories hurt. Unfulfilled wishes and dreams hurt. Anger hurt. The wounded ego of a person should have been worshipped hurt.

* The hole is getting deeper. The wound feels as if it would never heal. It is a vicious cycle that is just draining me.

* The peak periods are driving to, or back from, work, upon waking up, before going to bed, during meals, watching a movie, before a date, on a date, after a date, with family, with old friends, with new friends, at work ... I do not recall the rest of the times when I want to shoot myself!

* I never knew that misery can be seen, felt, touched, smelt, heard, and tasted.

* I know the drill by heart; sinking, sulking, aching, hitting rock bottom, then bottling it up, pushing it down, locking it in my black box with my other black memories, and then climbing my way up the tunnel.